Robin hears a knock at the door. “Who’s knocking at the door. I’m not expecting anyone. I’m not ready for company. I’m not dressed. Look at my hair. Maybe, it’s just a salesman,” she said as she walked to the door trying to straighten her hair as she went. “Just a minute,” she yells. You… Read More »It’s Okay, Dad Always Picks Up The Tab
Identify Your Thoughts and Emotions In order to make changes, you must first become aware of your automatic thoughts and associated emotions. Some changes are easy to make just by changing your automatic thoughts. Others are more difficult because the core beliefs are multifaceted and require more work. Start by making the easier changes first.… Read More »How Do I Rewrite The Script My Life?
What’s a Me-Movie? We all know that movies are a sequential series of images and sounds that engage the viewers’ imagination to tell a story or create a perceived experience. Every life is a story. Let’s turn our attention to the perceived experiences of our lives that I will call your ME-MOVIE. According to the… Read More »Does The Script of Your Life Need Rewriting?
Robin Back On Assignment Remember Robin from Part 1 and Part 2? She was given the assignment to evaluate an individual’s communication. In Part 2 she was People Watching at the Ferry Building Marketplace where she observed a couple having an intense argument. After the woman threw the phone down and stomped off, the guy… Read More »Who Do Your Words Say You Are?
I can hear some of you who are reading this post ask, everybody thinks differently, so what exactly do you mean? Correct, people don’t think or do anything exactly the same, unless, perhaps, identical twins. Image by Pete Linforth from Pixabay People with personality disorders do think differently: BiPolar: Obsessive Thoughts, think in the extremes… Read More »Communicating With Some Is Difficult
“One reduces the defensiveness of the listener when one communicates that one is willing to experiment with one’s own behavior, attitudes and ideas.”- Jack R. Gibb PhD – A pioneer in humanistic psychology Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay Loved Me Anyway (Lyrics by Larry S. Warfield) larrySWarfieldMusic.com I was bent and broken. God had… Read More »Are Your Communications Defensive?
Find The Rhythm (Lyrics by Larry S. Warfield) LarrySWarfieldMusic.com When a man loves the work he does, it’s a wonderful joy it brings. Not just mastering tools, or remembering rules, or just doing the same old thing It goes much deeper within him. It’s so very much like romance. He finds the rhythm in it… Read More »Find The Rhythm In Your Communication
Great journeys begin with one small step. In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers… Read More »Do You Know How To Say NO?
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful “I need you to talk to Mary for me,” Jeff said. “She’s not listening to me. I need you to explain my ADHD to her. She just doesn’t… Read More »Hey Are You Listening To Me
In working freelance for a little over a year, I discovered that working freelance with an employee mindset does not work well. Communication problems develop that don’t occur in the normal employee/employer setting. Yes, freelancers are hired to do a job, similar to that of an employee, but different communication problems occur. Communications First, let’s… Read More »Communication When Working Freelance