Workarounds to help minimize Inattentive ADHD Problems Dennis and Gracie, a young married couple, had been best friends during high school but found themselves in uncharted territory when Dennis revealed that he had been diagnosed with ADHD as a teenager. This information explained to Gracie why dealing with him was often very difficult. Sometimes, what… Read More »What is Inattentive ADHD and How to Help Someone Who Has It
Are you hearing instead of really listening Hearing vs. Listening Many people, men more than women, but women too, don’t listen to what’s being said. They might be able to tell you the words that were said for a few seconds, maybe a couple of minutes, but they definitely couldn’t tell you the meaning. I… Read More »How to Manipulate a Conversation by Not Listening
Ways to slow down the ADHD Fast Brain for better personal interaction People, in general, think faster than they talk. For all of us, it’s hard to listen, especially if the speaker is a little slower than average in finishing what he has to say. ADHD adults have even more difficulty being patient while others… Read More »3 Steps to Begin Renewing Your Mind for Better Communications
Avoid injured feelings and devastating conflicts Conversations can go from a peaceful discussion to a hurtful argument in seconds when one partner has ADHD. ADHDers often find it difficult to keep their emotions in check and under control during intense interactions. Anger, resentment, and arguing are common when ADHD is present. Both the ADHDer and… Read More »6 Breakthrough Tips to Improve Toxic Communications
Rejection Sensitivity In my last post, “What does ADHD have to do with Anger,” Gracie thought she and Dennis had finally turned a corner in being able to communicate effectively. Dennis finally revealed that he had been diagnosed with ADHD. Even though they were neighbors and friends during childhood, Dennis had never revealed this to… Read More »Another Side of Adult ADHD
“Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” — Proverbs 16:32 ESV In my last post, Do You Play Defense, Dennis was very easily offended, but wouldn’t talk to Gracie about why. They found an article about how to resolve conflict according… Read More »What Does Anger Have To Do With ADHD
The ‘shadow’ is the side of your personality that contains all the parts of yourself that you don’t want to admit to having. Dark World Jeremy thought about his discussion with his counselor while sitting on the bench in the school courtyard. She had brought a little light into his seemingly very dark shadow world.… Read More »Finding Gold In Your Shadow Side
The hardest thing about ADHD and other Personality Disorders is that it’s ‘invisible’ to outsiders. “I’m so tired of everyone telling me that I’m not normal just because I have ADHD. Who do they think they are? God.” Jeremy said. “I’ve been like this my whole life. Of course, it’s normal. It’s normal for me.… Read More »They Keep Telling Me I’m Not Normal
I can hear some of you who are reading this post ask, everybody thinks differently, so what exactly do you mean? Correct, people don’t think or do anything exactly the same, unless, perhaps, identical twins. Image by Pete Linforth from Pixabay People with personality disorders do think differently: BiPolar: Obsessive Thoughts, think in the extremes… Read More »Communicating With Some Is Difficult
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful “I need you to talk to Mary for me,” Jeff said. “She’s not listening to me. I need you to explain my ADHD to her. She just doesn’t… Read More »Hey Are You Listening To Me