Rich Dad Benny’s rich dad paid his court-ordered child support and a round-trip ticket for Benny’s yearly visit. “What does everybody expect? I do have three kids and I have more than a full-time job,” dad used to say about his role in his kid’s lives. Benny often thought about his dad’s statement. Yes, the… Read More »Being Rich Will Really Make Me Happy
People Pleaser Prison As I became more aware of myself and who I am, I realized I have been a people pleaser much of my life. During childhood, my dad controlled everything my mother and I did with his silence. If he didn’t approve he would not speak for days. I got married the first… Read More »My Bucket’s Full-Time to Empty It
Find the Keys Having love, recognition, and approval from friends, family, co-workers, and peers is very important to me. If I don’t please others they may choose to reject, criticize, or abandon me – People-Pleaser. If you fear rejection or disapproval – or you feel guilty for saying no – or feel a lack of recognition… Read More »How to Escape People-Pleaser Prison
Are you self-motivated enough to be a success, to go where you really want to go, and to be the person you’ve always dreamed you could be? Are you motived to begin the change process? Yes? Then let’s get started Self-Awareness The first step in making changes in your life is to become aware of what… Read More »Change Your Life One Step At A Time
From childhood, I kept my anger to myself. My mother said she could always tell when I was angry or upset by the way I played the piano. I considered myself a person who rarely got angry. When I did get angry I kept it inside. Until, one day, my ex-husband, a psychology major in… Read More »Expand Your Self-Awareness for Change
Hearing vs. Listening Many people, men more than women, but women too, don’t listen to what’s being said. They might be able to tell you the words that were said for a few seconds, maybe a couple of minutes, but they definitely couldn’t tell you the meaning. I know one woman who got tired of… Read More »Manipulate a Conversation By Not Listening
Communication is a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior. It can be either a verbal or written message. Merriam-Webster There are certain things we do that stop all effective communication. Saying Nothing – Silence One of the best ways to stop all communication is… Read More »How To Stop Effective Communication
In working freelance for a little over a year, I discovered that working freelance with an employee mindset does not work well. Communication problems develop that don’t occur in the normal employee/employer setting. Yes, freelancers are hired to do a job, similar to that of an employee, but different communication problems occur. Communications First, let’s… Read More »Communication When Working Freelance
Freelance Job #1 After a forced retirement from an illness that involved multiple surgeries, I decided to go back to work. The Freelance market was like a neon sign flashing in my eyes, “Work Here”, “Work Here.” I gave it a try. With my years of experience, I landed an interview, I think, the second… Read More »How I Learned to Be the Boss
Falling Up Something grabbed the back of my shirt and pulled me straight up through the building at lightning speed. I could feel the speed, like the diving sensation of a roller coaster. Except, instead of falling down, I was falling up. Then, I stopped, not an abrupt stop. I didn’t feel any “G” force.… Read More »How It Feels Outside of Time