“There is an unreported epidemic of negative self-talk in our culture today.” – Cynthia Kane Introduction According to Joseph J. Luciani Ph.D., worry is the incessant, ruminative speculation of what might go wrong—anticipation of chaos. Worry predicts that something will happen or go wrong (loss of control). Worry gives the illusion of control for a… Read More »Don’t Be Like Sam
“It’s not attractive to be talking down about yourself all the time. All you continue to do to yourself is pull yourself further down into a deeper place of depression and sadness and insecurity and fear and hopelessness, so it’s like, having God in your life is important, accepting who you are is important, regardless… Read More »Talking Down About Yourself
“The critical inner voice refers to a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward our selves and others…” – Dr. Lisa Firestone Introduction It’s interesting how you come to accept a view of yourself that says, “I’m not ok,” or “I’m not good enough.” You grow up accepting this distorted view as normal, “that’s just the… Read More »Say Something Positive
You’ve been ridding your garden plot of weeds and garbage. Have you started planting yet? Introduction In the last post Harvey started looking at his negative core beliefs and how to change them into a postive ‘mindset.’ The roots of negative core beliefs go very deep into the soil. If we don’t pull get all… Read More »Planting Your New Mindset
Photo by Bruce Mars from Pexels Growing your “mindset” is like growing a garden. The first thing you have to do is prepare the soil by ridding it of weeds. You also need to clear out any rocks and other garbage you might find in your garden plot, then enrich the soil for optimum seed… Read More »Growing Your Mindset
“Words are a reflection of our thoughts. Positive words come from positive thoughts, negative words from negative thoughts. It is really that simple.” Regulating Physical and Emotional Stress In the book, “Words Can Change Your Brain,” by Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist at Thomas Jefferson University, and Mark Robert Waldman, a communications expert, explain how… Read More »Words Change Your Brain for Better or Worse
Sticks and stone can leave broken bones and bruised bodies, but verbal abuse can have devastating effects that can last for years. How To Create Your World With Words A Normal Pre-Teen Girl Kathy’s mother frequently told her that she was no good. She’d never amount to anything. She was a disappointment to the… Read More »Sticks and Stones May Break Your Bones…
“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” – Audrey Hepburn Kathy had been through two abusive relationships. She felt alone and unloved until she met James. When her car broke down on… Read More »How to Create Your World With Your Words