“To be a great listener requires patience, focus, awareness, and most of all it requires us to set aside our own agenda.” – Matthew Kelly, The Culture Solution Not Listening Ted, from the motor pool at work, gave me a ride home. You, reading this story, remember my car accident from the previous stories, right?… Read More »How to Hear What People Are Really Saying!!
“Not everyone with a problem needs you to solve it. Sometimes all a person needs is to feel like they’ve been heard. Listening without judging can be more effective than injecting your opinions or trying to solve a problem that doesn’t have an easy answer.” ― Zero Dean, Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1… Read More »How To Help Without Helping
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Steven Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Worst Day Possible My day was one of the worst I had ever had. It seemed like I was cursed or something. My car was sideswiped on the… Read More »Do You Know How To Listen?
Great journeys begin with one small step. In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers… Read More »Do You Know How To Say NO?
A person’s word is directly linked to their honor, trustworthiness, and integrity. If someone’s word is their bond, they always keep a promise. I like to say, “Words are Cheap. It’s your behavior that tells the truth.” A person can talk all day long about their ideas, theories, solutions, goals, how they would fix this… Read More »You Are What You Do – Not What You Say
“Words are a reflection of our thoughts. Positive words come from positive thoughts, negative words from negative thoughts. It is really that simple.” Regulating Physical and Emotional Stress In the book, “Words Can Change Your Brain,” by Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist at Thomas Jefferson University, and Mark Robert Waldman, a communications expert, explain how… Read More »Words Change Your Brain for Better or Worse
Sticks and stone can leave broken bones and bruised bodies, but verbal abuse can have devastating effects that can last for years. How To Create Your World With Words A Normal Pre-Teen Girl Kathy’s mother frequently told her that she was no good. She’d never amount to anything. She was a disappointment to the… Read More »Sticks and Stones May Break Your Bones…
“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” – Audrey Hepburn Kathy had been through two abusive relationships. She felt alone and unloved until she met James. When her car broke down on… Read More »How to Create Your World With Your Words
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful “I need you to talk to Mary for me,” Jeff said. “She’s not listening to me. I need you to explain my ADHD to her. She just doesn’t… Read More »Hey Are You Listening To Me
Do you agree to things because you feel pressured? It was almost midnight. She was fading quickly, but he just kept talking doling out orders for the next day. Nancy knew he was a “night-owl” but she wasn’t. She needed her sleep. After 15 years of marriage, she thought that he would lighten up, but… Read More »Does Your “No” Mean “No”