“One reduces the defensiveness of the listener when one communicates that one is willing to experiment with one’s own behavior, attitudes and ideas.”- Jack R. Gibb PhD – A pioneer in humanistic psychology Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay Loved Me Anyway (Lyrics by Larry S. Warfield) larrySWarfieldMusic.com I was bent and broken. God had… Read More »Are Your Communications Defensive?
Find The Rhythm (Lyrics by Larry S. Warfield) LarrySWarfieldMusic.com When a man loves the work he does, it’s a wonderful joy it brings. Not just mastering tools, or remembering rules, or just doing the same old thing It goes much deeper within him. It’s so very much like romance. He finds the rhythm in it… Read More »Find The Rhythm In Your Communication
Men engage the world in a hierarchical social order, “one-upmanship”, whereas, women approach the world as one in a network of connections for intimacy. Photo by Daniel Mingook Kim on Unsplash Mark stood at the kitchen counter making his lunch before leaving for work when Diane started talking about her job, again (How Empathy Comes… Read More »Why Doesn’t ‘HE’ Get It
Developing empathy and becoming an Empathic Listener is learning to act, be, and care about others, as well as, learning to control and understand our own emotions. “Mark, would you please take me to the office to get my car?” Diane asked a second time. Mark grabbed his jacket and stormed out, slamming the front… Read More »How Empathy Comes To the Rescue
The manner in which you stand, listen, gaze and move, tells the person you are communicating with how attentive you are, if you are being honest, and if you care or not. – Anthony Madani Talking Non-Stop Amy and Diane, from the story in Most Of Us, Don’t Know How To Listen, went to lunch… Read More »How Not To Be the Listener Who Fakes It
“To be a great listener requires patience, focus, awareness, and most of all it requires us to set aside our own agenda.” – Matthew Kelly, The Culture Solution Not Listening Ted, from the motor pool at work, gave me a ride home. You, reading this story, remember my car accident from the previous stories, right?… Read More »How to Hear What People Are Really Saying!!
“Not everyone with a problem needs you to solve it. Sometimes all a person needs is to feel like they’ve been heard. Listening without judging can be more effective than injecting your opinions or trying to solve a problem that doesn’t have an easy answer.” ― Zero Dean, Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1… Read More »How To Help Without Helping
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Steven Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Worst Day Possible My day was one of the worst I had ever had. It seemed like I was cursed or something. My car was sideswiped on the… Read More »Do You Know How To Listen?
Great journeys begin with one small step. In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers… Read More »Do You Know How To Say NO?
A person’s word is directly linked to their honor, trustworthiness, and integrity. If someone’s word is their bond, they always keep a promise. I like to say, “Words are Cheap. It’s your behavior that tells the truth.” A person can talk all day long about their ideas, theories, solutions, goals, how they would fix this… Read More »You Are What You Do – Not What You Say