Are you hearing instead of really listening Hearing vs. Listening Many people, men more than women, but women too, don’t listen to what’s being said. They might be able to tell you the words that were said for a few seconds, maybe a couple of minutes, but they definitely couldn’t tell you the meaning. I… Read More »How to Manipulate a Conversation by Not Listening
Ways to slow down the ADHD Fast Brain for better personal interaction People, in general, think faster than they talk. For all of us, it’s hard to listen, especially if the speaker is a little slower than average in finishing what he has to say. ADHD adults have even more difficulty being patient while others… Read More »3 Steps to Begin Renewing Your Mind for Better Communications
7 workaround solutions for staying on task It has been determined that ADHD is not a lack of or deficiency in attention. It is a problem with the ability to regulate attention and activity. Those with ADHD struggle with how and when to switch on and off their focus. Experts have said the executive function… Read More »How You Can Help ADHD Adults Get Organized and Accomplish Their Goals
3 active listening exercises and techniques to develop better communication Does it seem like the ADHD adults in your life are always on the phone or focused somewhere else when you try to talk to them? It’s very difficult to have a meaningful conversation when you get silence in return. Active Listening Good communication is… Read More »How You Can Help ADHD Adults Improve Their Ability To Listen
Avoid injured feelings and devastating conflicts Conversations can go from a peaceful discussion to a hurtful argument in seconds when one partner has ADHD. ADHDers often find it difficult to keep their emotions in check and under control during intense interactions. Anger, resentment, and arguing are common when ADHD is present. Both the ADHDer and… Read More »6 Breakthrough Tips to Improve Toxic Communications
Rejection Sensitivity In my last post, “What does ADHD have to do with Anger,” Gracie thought she and Dennis had finally turned a corner in being able to communicate effectively. Dennis finally revealed that he had been diagnosed with ADHD. Even though they were neighbors and friends during childhood, Dennis had never revealed this to… Read More »Another Side of Adult ADHD
“Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” — Proverbs 16:32 ESV In my last post, Do You Play Defense, Dennis was very easily offended, but wouldn’t talk to Gracie about why. They found an article about how to resolve conflict according… Read More »What Does Anger Have To Do With ADHD
Defensiveness is reactive, similar to the defensive plays in football, where the defense reacts to the actions of the offense In relationships, defensiveness can be both a feeling and behavior. Typically, a defensive feeling is triggered by criticism, put-downs, shaming, intense sadness, or anger. As a result of the feeling, you exhibit behaviors such as being… Read More »Do You Play Defense
How to take your thoughts captive Photo by Laura Tancredi from Pexels Body Shaming Gracie sat in a corner booth of a fast-food restaurant. In the booth next to her, she could hear two young women talking. One said, “I have to lose weight. At size 12 I’m never going to get a date. Look… Read More »Gracie and her Best Friend About Ready to Duke it out…
Your Thoughts Become Your Words Which Become Your Behavior “How can my words be used to create my future? How are word seeds planted?” Gracie said. “I just don’t get it.” Gracie, a woman in her mid-40s, had heard her pastor say the above in one of his sermons. She just couldn’t shake the thought… Read More »Remember The Seeds You Planted